An entire region experienced something that many men have gone through. You come home, expecting to sit down at the table with your wife for dinner, maybe throw on the news in the background. A usual Tuesday.
Reality hits you like a ton of deflated footballs. The love of your life, the one that was by your side for 20 years, has taken everything and left. All that remains is a note thanking you for all that you did.
If only all you did was enough.
Sure, there were signs that things might be going downhill, but those were just signs. Outside of Houston, signs aren’t something to pay too much attention too. Besides, it really seemed that you worked past them anyway, as strong couples always do.
It’s something you can’t prepare for. It’s a scary time. But I’m here to help.
Tip #1: Don’t Jump Into Another Relationship
While there are many fish in the sea, don’t grab your rod just yet. If anything, just practice with it a few times a day alone in your house, so to speak, but that’s besides the point. While it might seem like the comforting choice, the reality is you’re doing more harm than good. Sure, maybe you want to try out a redhead.
But you’ll inevitably just compare them to the last one, which isn’t fair. You can’t expect to get the same fulfillment in a few months that originally took 20 years to build. Just take some time to yourself to get your head right before getting back in the game.
Tip #2: Delete All Memories From Your Phone
This one will sting, but it’s necessary. There’s nothing worse than looking through your phone and seeing old texts, pictures, snapchat memories etc. No matter how much progress you make, it always takes you a few steps back. So delete that number, erase those texts, and hammer that “BLOCK” button.
You must stop yourself from sending a mistake of a message at all costs.
Don’t be that guy. Nobody likes that guy.
Tip #3: Read Your Favorite Blog And Tell Your Friends About It
As social media has proven, people really care about what’s going on in other people’s lived. Sharing something like a blog with your friends will help provide positive social interaction and they’ll know how smart you are for being able to read. That’ll do wonders for your ego.
Tip #4: Remember The Good Times
It’s hard to do, especially in the immediate aftermath, but having a healthy perspective like this is key. I mean, think about it, most couples only get one ring in their entire time together. You got six. Many spend their years in failed relationship after failed relationship after failed relationship
But you two were rock solid through that entire time. Lastly, and this may be superficial, but man were you able to show your partner off. They made a room stop when they walked in. While everyone else’s partner looks like this.
You two had times together no one will ever get to have.
So get up and dust yourself off. You’re going to be fine.
Everything will be exactly the way it was in no time.